In Nepal, Father’s Day, known as Kushe Aunsi or Gokarna Aunsi, is more than just a day to honor paternal bonds—it’s a cultural and spiritual celebration that reflects deep respect and gratitude for fathers. Falling on the new moon day of the Hindu month of Bhadra (late August or early September), this day is steeped in tradition, with rituals that have been passed down through generations.
On Kushe Aunsi, families come together to honor their fathers with love, gifts, and heartfelt gestures. Sons and daughters, near and far, make their way to their parents' homes, bringing sweets, fruits, and other delicacies. It’s a day filled with laughter, memories, and the sharing of stories that bind the family together. For those whose fathers have passed away, the day takes on a somber yet reverent tone, as they visit the sacred Gokarneswor Mahadev temple in Kathmandu, where they perform rituals to honor their deceased fathers and seek blessings for their souls.
The etymology of the festival's name is deeply symbolic. Aunsi refers to the new moon day, while Kushe is derived from Kush, a sacred grass in Hinduism believed to have protective and purifying properties. On this day, families bring Kush into their homes, symbolizing the presence and protection of Lord Vishnu. The festival is also referred to as Buwa ko Mukh Herne Din, literally translating to "the day to see one's father's face." This simple phrase captures the essence of the day—a time to reconnect with the man who has been a pillar of strength and guidance.
For many, the day begins with a pilgrimage to Gokarneswor Mahadev, where offerings are made, and prayers are recited. The temple, steeped in mythology, is believed to be where Lord Shiva once hid from the other gods, taking the form of a golden deer. The mythological significance of the shrine adds a layer of spiritual depth to the rituals performed here, making the connection between the living and the departed even more profound.
As the day unfolds, the streets of Nepal are filled with married daughters making their way to their maternal homes, carrying gifts for their fathers. The act of offering these gifts, followed by the touching of the father’s feet (by sons) or hands (by daughters), is a gesture of deep respect and veneration. It is a poignant reminder of the unbreakable bond between a father and his children, one that transcends time and space.
Even in today’s modern world, where the pressures of life can sometimes cause us to forget the importance of family, Kushe Aunsi serves as a powerful reminder. It is a day that encourages us to pause, reflect, and appreciate the sacrifices and love of our fathers. It is a day to rekindle the warmth of familial bonds, to express gratitude, and to ensure that the legacy of respect and honor continues in the generations to come.
As we celebrate Kushe Aunsi, let us remember that our fathers are more than just the providers—they are our teachers, protectors, and guides. In their strength, we find our courage; in their wisdom, we find our direction. And on this special day, we offer them not just our gifts, but our hearts.
Happy Kushe Aunsi to all the fathers out there.
